Top Five Ways To Convince Your Wife to let You Buy A Motorcycle
76There are better ways to get a motorcycle than begging
I got lucky. My wife was very gracious and actually let me get a motorcycle. In fact, she was even genuinely supportive of the idea.
However, the more I talk with my married friends, the more I realize their wives just don't want them to get motorcycles. And the women always seem to have good reasons. They often say, "it's too dangerous" or "we can't afford it."
I'm here to tell you that there are ways you can convince your wife to let you get a motorcycle. In fact, I'll list out the top five ways to convince your wife to let you get a bike. Keep in mind that these methods can also be used to convince your friends, girlfriend, parents or other family to let you get a bike.
If you want to buy a motorcycle but someone is preventing you, try these five methods and you will drastically increase your chances. Read all the way through and you'll even find a sixth, bonus method to help convince your wife to let you get that bike of your dreams.
Five Tips to Convince Your Spouse to let You Get a Bike
- Determine what you really want
Don't sell yourself short. If you want a flashy bike, then make that your goal. If you want a shiny new cruiser, make that your goal. There are two reasons why setting this goal is important:
- It will help you have a united front in your argument
- It will let your wife know you're serious about your goal and you've put a lot of thought into it
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Don't take out a second loan or steal from the kid's college fund to buy your bike. Secretly save up money on the side. Now when you approach your wife about the idea, place yourself in her shoes and think of which is better- telling her you want a bike or telling her you want a bike and you've got $____ already saved up for it.
If you're a spend thrift and are able to save for the entire purchase price of the bike, even better!
- Promise her you'll be safe on your motorcycle
And don't lie to her here. Genuinely share with her that your desire is to be safe. Tell her that when you get your bike you're not going to do crazy stunts like wheelies and peel outs.
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- Offer her a trade of some sort
A friend of mine got a bike this way. He agreed to buy her the Ford Explorer that she wanted and he was able to buy the sportbike he wanted.
Find something your wife wants and offer her a trade. Don't exploit her and don't let her exploit you, but come up with a proposal and approach her about it.
- Show her the safety equipment you purchased
Note: This is a risky method to try to negotiate to get a bike. At the same time, it's an effective method. Purchase a bright helmet (I'd recommend Arai as they have a very strong reputation for safety) and a nice jacket (best bet is to get a reflective jacket).
When you show your wife the ins and outs of your helmet and jacket, assure her that you'll be safe and secure in your new equipment. Touching and seeing the safety equipment will go a long way to win her over.
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Bonus Tip to Convince Your Wife
- Let her know it's not just for you
There are a lot of female motorcyclists out there. Depending on your situation you could propose that she get a bike so that you could both could ride together.
If two motorcycles isn't an option, let her know that you'd love it if she rode on the motorcycle with you. (Trust me, there's nothing sexier than riding on a bike with your woman.)
A big selling point with this tip is that it's quality time. Find me a woman who doesn't care about quality time and I'll find you Sasquatch.
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Good insight, got1, you're probably right. There might just be deeper problems there.
So what kinda bike you got? And do you have any tips for how you got yours that might help other readers? I'm all ears.
If I may add one more way...
Offer her to buy her one too. :)
Ohh now that's a good way MangoGirl. I guess it's a good idea to start saving money early!
Ohhh nooo , this is definately a hub for my hubby. I havent said a straight-out No but you must have read my mind lol. Im kinda more 50/50 on the subject though . He wants a Harley and I want a house ,maybe we can compromise along the way lol thanks for sharing
Maybe you could buy a house with a Harley in the garage?
Don't show your husband this article! He might get some ideas on how to convince you. Well at least you'll know his arguments in advance :)
ha like ya sense of humor and yep thats what im thinkin forewarned is shoot forgot the rest ,but yu know what I mean lol.
haha good stuff Eaglekiwi. Let us know how it turns out...!
Be a man. Just f@#$%&g buy it!
Or be an Obamatard
That's the next option, isn't it roadrash? Just get out there and buy it- I like it!
I notice from the text "...Show her the safety equipment you purchased..."
I don't know about your wife, but mine would have spotted things like that way before I approached her about purchasing a bike.
It's a bit difficult to explain the helmet away with no bike isn't it?
I already have the jacket - had it for years, but there are gloves too and although they are easier to hide than the helmet, they would only remain hidden for so long.
I preferred RoadRash - just go and buy it.
I haven't done that, but I have told her that it's imminent. This way she gets used to the idea. Plus the idea of a plastic pig isn't appealing, so telling her I am buying a Honda 1100 Shadow, makes her feel safer because I'm not likely to be haring round at a ton forty.
I can just show her my hub http://hubpages.com/hub/Think-Bike. If that doesn't convince her that I've thought about this very carefully, I don't know what will!
Nick, thanks for putting your 2 cents in. I commented on your hub as well.
Good luck with the whole I'm-going-to-just-buy-it-regardless approach. I really do hope it works for you. I suppose it's all the same destination even if you take a different path.
Or you can just do what I did, go out and buy one. Men need to grow some balls. I paid cash for mine from money I made from some stock and bought it. I had mentioned months earlier just in random conversation I wanted one and she said if the money was there she didn't care, so I did.
I tell her and I get "I wish you would have told me so we could discuss it". I told we if, 2 months ago when you said you didn't care. Women...
It's a common wife/GF ploy...if they think the husband or BF isn't serious or will just forget about it, they will go along with it to keep them happy and make them think they still wear the pants, if you actually follow through, they get all upset and "hurt".
My dad once told me "It's easier to get forgiveness than permission." Live by those words or be prepared to sit down to pee your whole life.
I married a woman that loves motorcycles as much as I do. She has her motorcycle.
ScubaCat and D-Master it sounds like you've got a couple great wives. Most wives I know of wouldn't care, but there are a handful of wives out there that are much more picky about it (as I'm sure you know).
There's certainly no need for men to be neutered by all this; I hope that point was made through the article. If she says she's cool with it but then gets upset after it's bought, well then that's a problem...
For me, that wasn't the case. In fact, my wife now wants her motorcycle license! Maybe that'll be my next article: How to convince your wife to get her own motorcycle license! D-Master, you got any pointers for that one?
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I'd say I hit the jackpot with my wife. All I ever get is "if we can afford it why not"
Wow, jackpot indeed! Good for you.
Nice talk
Yeah my gf is totally against it but I'm buying one anyways. I'm almost 26 and I have ALWAYS wanted a bike. I don't care for the crazy stunts or anything I just want something that looks nice that I can ride around. At this moment in time I'm terrified to be riding at night so that won't happen for a LONG time. What is a good beginner bike? I don't want a harley or anything like that. I like more of the Ducati type looks. Can anyone help? If so please email me at Openyourmindent@yahoo.com
Thanks!
Jerrod d.
Hey Jerrod, just shot you an email.
Hey all. I owned a sport bike when my wife and I were dating back in 2006. She never said much about it when I had it (of course I had already owned it before we started dating). In 2007, I needed to sell it and the car I had at the time so I could get something more dependable. I drove a 1992 Jetta and in Michigan, it is a good idea to have a car that will survive the winter time! Anyway, since then, I have saved up for a Yamaha R6 and I now have enough to pay for the bike and all the gear I will need (with cash). I've been kinda nervous to talk to her about wanting one only because I kinda knew the answer was going to be a flat-out no. The other day I mentioned to her that I wanted to get another bike and that I already have the money for it. Her concept of bikes in general is bad, of course. She doesn't like them only because she says they are dangerous and that there are many accidents pertaining bikes all the time. I told her that there are just as many accidents with vehicles (if not more). She then said that if I got a bike, I would have to sell my car (2005 Pontiac G6 GT) and get a beater car. My car is paid for which does not make sense to me at all. I think she was just saying that in hopes that I would say no that I would not take the offer. I am now stuck between either just going and getting it anyway and dealing with a mad wife for a few days, sitting down and talking to her, letting her know what I am wanting to do and basically telling her that I need this for some freedom (in a good way of course), or just simply telling her how it is and that I am getting it because she is always reminding me that I am the man of the house and that she will support any decision I make. In regards to safety, I have taken the 3 day riders training course before I rode my first bike, I am not the type of rider that likes to do stunts and crazy things like that, and since I have ridden before, I know what it takes to be alert and always being aware of my surrounds and looking to see what the other driver is going to do. I have read the previous posts and have gotten a lot of good ways to approach this kind of situation.
Man Jermbo, good luck with that! I vote for the first option- sitting down with her and talking with her about how you'd like to have it for freedom purposes.
Props to you for doing a safety course- I did the same thing and it helped my cause greatly :)
Tell her. "hey, its either you like it or you go". I'm a man...I don't ask for things, I demand them. Keep It Real
me and my girlfriend have a 2 year old son we split up a while back and i went 2 live with my brother during that period of time i bought my first bike all it needed was a tune up and it was road ready so i let it sit at my buddys house for a year during that time my sons mom and i got back together no she has always said no 2 bikes because of her cock head step dad along with alot of other things so when her and i got stable i went and got the bike from my buddys house and brought it home did the work on it got the bike runnin in tip top shape again i was ready 2 ride got online got insurance on the bike went 2 the dmv got tags i was happy her on the other hand NOT SO MUCH needless 2 say she has been mad ever since
iv alwas been the 1 2 feed fuel 2 the fire so about a weekago the weather was nice me and my son were out in the drive way playin and he walked over 2 my bike so i sat on it with him in m lap and started the bike and let him play with the throtle he loved it so i kicked it in gear and took him around the yard a few times well she got off work early and saw what him and i were doin lol it hasnt been good since
but i tried the whole i wanna tag the bike i wanna ride and she didnt go 4 it so i grew my set of balls and did it she told me a few times me or the bike i always replied the bike and she is still hear so she cant be that fuckin mad s
I have managed to convince my wife to let me get a scooter, and I commute to work every day on it. Even the police told me how safe I was on it when I stopped at traffic lights. Despite all this, she won't agree to letting me have a restricted cruiser... what am I doing wrong. I even have all the gear.
Help!!
I like the silence and riding a solid bike is better than sex
I had a bike 4 years ago. When my son was 6 months old I agreed to sell it. BIG MISTAKE. Now my son is 5, I have a daughter who is 3 and there is nothing that I would like more than to be able to take off and buzz around town for an hour or so when the times get stressful. But I know almost for certain that my wife will never let me get another motorcycle. Why:
-> She thinks they aren't safe, and she wants me to be around (meaning not dead) for the kids. She knows I'm a safe rider, and have taken her on many rides in the past.
-> She has an issue with me spending money, especially if it's something "just for me".
-> The exchange idea won't work because she doesn't want to buy anything for herself.
-> She will never ride on the motorcycle if I get it, out of the fear that something could happen to her / us and we wouldn't be there for the kids.
So - how to deal with such a difficult situation. I will mention it for Fathers day, and every time I see some bikes parked outside where we're at. The "wear her down" method is slow and painful for both of us, but it's the only one that seems to work. Any other advice????
Brother you need to get her involved in bike oriented events. Take her and the kids to a bike rally,you don't have to ride to attend. but be picky and ask questions about the type of rally. some are great for the free willed but not good when trying to win over the wife. Also buy a good life insurance policy she has to know she and the children will be covered if you die. That's the way they think ( i guess) not sure about that bro. I ride almost everyday and enjoy every minute of it. I ride with the a group called
Western Plains Downed Biker Association,We are Aa group of men/women who love to ride and help people who have lost a loved one to a motorcycle accident or some kind of Bike accident. We get sponsors and put together poker run, an Auction or some type of event so other bikers and friends can particpate and donate money to the family ( we are a 501c not for prfit club.) So yes the money goes to the family. So I like to ride and I get to ride with a reason too.
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Please help me about this issue. I lost friends in a mc accident and although I love dirt bikes, I am scared to death of street bikes. Plus, I suffer from vertigo sometimes.
My husband got himself a street bike. Claims he had one "all his life" even though for our 30+ years of marriage, he only got a couple to buy and sell - he did not ride more than a few miles. Now, he's in with the bike crowd and I'm at home alone.
In the past, I rode with him twice on bikes. The first time, we had everything from bugs to deer and a car come out in front of us and we were only 15 minutes from home. He insists that was unusual.
The 2nd time, he said I leaned the wrong way, then when I tried to please him, he insisted I leaned too far and was going to make him wreck. He yelled at me until I was in tears because I was doing eveything he said and he still was mad.
Our marriage has not been very good because he is more into his hobbies (mc and cars) than in doing things together so I was hoping that someone would give me a really good tip on how to not be scared. I am literally terried after the experiences I had. He doesn't seem to understand how much of an impact he's made on this to me and still yells at me and tells me how I did something wrong by leaning wrong. I have no idea what he means and he said it's natural but obviously, it isn't for me since what I thought was normal - he says is not. So, now I'm thinking if I go, I will cause him to wreck.
Any help?
annasg I'm sorry to hear of the troubles you've been having with your motorcycle situation at home. Honestly the best advice I can give you is to not take the advice of people on the internet. Many will have opinions, thoughts and "expertise" but what would be best is to get in touch with someone in-person who can help you through that situation. A counselor of psychologist would be great...not because "something about you is wrong" but because life could be much richer if you worked through this problem with a trusted helper.
So, for me to give marital advice would be wrong simply because it's not my area of expertise. Try to find someone who is experienced in that area and get help.
I asked my wife to help me pick out the bike and let her pick the color. Involve her.
Just ask her. When she says no and she will, then you go out and get it anyway. Nothing motivates me better than my wife telling me I can't do something. The old saying "It's easier to ask for forgiveness, than permission" always holds true when motorcycles are concerned.
My advice is only for those with no kids. If you have kids and can honestly afford a motorcycle, then go for it.
Totally agree with almost everything. Mine wanted a bike, and I'm all for it, because I want one, too, and with a bad back I can't drive one, but can ride, eventually. But...when the house is about to be taken away because of non payment of property taxes, that we are trying to save for, and he just went out and spent $3,000 on a motorcycle 3 days ago, I think there's a problem. House or motorcycle? Well, he got what he wanted, so it's all good, right? I am currently selling my only vehicle now, so I can try and save my house.
No one seems to have mentioned here that it might be we women who want a motorcycle, and yet have a boyfriend / husband who is very against the idea! It took me a year to get my boyfriend to come round to the idea, and finally I bought a nice, old classic cruiser, and then got an instructor to help me build my confidence, (I got my licence years ago, and then didn't ride for several years). I've now developed a passion for riding, and want a modern bike (street) to use for commuting, as well as my cruiser for pleasure. B/friend not impressed! Am I being totally selfish in indulging my new-found passion? I am 44, have no kids, and have a job, plus I am a carer for my ageing dad, (who, by the way, doesn't have a problem with me riding a motorbike, bless him. So I'm extra careful for his sake). My BF just comes up with worst case scenarios all the time. We do not live together, have no plans to marry, (although I'd like to be married), and so I don't know why he says, "You don't know what I go through every time you get on that thing," (the motorbike). I sometimes feel like a caged bird, and the bike gives me freedom.
Very interesting article. I used to own a Yamaha DT 1984, and now there are some Taiwanese made bike 150cc similar to this scrambler. I guess I have to build my courage to have my wife approval on this purchase as the feeling of my first love in this bike is there, every time it zoom pass me. I will have to test ride this Taiwanese bike before venturing into this unchartered territories (approval from spouse).
These are good points but I dont think it takes into consideration as to why a wife or girlfriend has good reasons to say no. And I think that needs to be understood.Recently I wouldnt let me boyfriend get a bike, and I am slowly regreting not letting him although I have good reasons not to.
We have been together for 6 years, leaving together for the past two and are expecting our first child. First of all I want to say I dont have a problem at all with him getting a motorcycle. I know he'll be safe and especially with a baby on the way he isnt that stupid to not be careful. But he doesnt understand financially we just dont have the money this very second and I told him to wait a month. A MONTH. But nooo he finds some amazing bike on craiglist for a great price.He knew it would go quick (and so did I) and he said he was going to buy it right there and then. I had a good paycheck with overtime coming in the next day and so he wanted to use that along with his paycheck, fine by me helping pay for it we share everythign financially but he doesnt realize I am 28 days late on my car payment and I dont pay it now I get credit reported (even worst on my Grandfather as he is my co-signer), secondly his license is suspended due to a non paid speeding ticket that is now $1700 (wouldnt you want to pay this and get your license back first), third he doesnt even have a motorcycle license and the class is $300 (why not take the class first and get the motorcycle license). I just dont understnad why he can't wait for something else to come along which I am sure something will. With that being said the weekend has passed the bike sold to someone else and is now back up on craigslist for $1500 more. He is upset, blames me that he missed out on such a good deal (I agree it was a great deal)and is just being the biggest jerk ever. Okay I feel bad enough I had to put my foot down and say no, but he needs to put his priority in place and realize we would have not even a penny right now if he got it. It's not like I said no dont EVER get a bike. You would think me being pregnant and already going through enough he would just drop it and not want to fight. Am I wrong for what I did? Should I have let him get the bike when he wnated to?
I knew I wasn't the only one with this issue. Like a few others, I'm a married 24 year-old just wanting to ride. My dad had one so naturally I want one for myself. I'm not asking for a 600cc, just a simple Harley-Davidson (any suggestions as to what model would be appreciated). But everytime I bring it up to my wife I just get a plain ol' 'No'. I understand since her brother had a bad bike accident, but I hate that she believes the same will happen to me. I'll try these suggestions. I would just go and get it and not care what she says but she wouldn't do that to me, call me a pansy but I hate arguing with my better half.
Great thoughts Cassie, thank you for sharing them. I'll consider writing a "top five ways to convince your husband or boyfriend to let you buy a motorcycle". That sounds like a great idea!
OR....You could grab check your junk to make sure you're still a man and then TELL her flat out your getting a Bike!! Just saying I don't need to convince anyone when i want something.
How the hell do you argue against the "it's not you it's the other drivers" argument... i know they are more dangerous but life is for living why shy away from everything and anything that could possibly end badly....
you csnt find that arguement. i am getting rid of my katana 600 do to other drivers. the day i bought my bike last week i had a suv pull out in front of me and i spent 4 days in the hospital. my dad was also was in an accident that a lady pulled out in front of him. i love my bike but its not worth dieing over. just for a heads up your wife will always worry when you take it out. mine almost went into a mental breakdown because i almost died. just look into everything before you get one its not worth putting family through you getting hurt on the bike. i know from experience.
My wife does the same thing - she worries every time I take it out.
To help calm her nerves I've been a safe driver for years in the car and on the motorcycle (no tickets, accidents, etc) and I took an optional safety course.
There might not be a silver bullet but doing everything to calm her nerves helps.
We always agreed that my husband with a shitty car driving record would not get one in the past 12 yrs, after less than a yr of marriage he said he's getting one, no compromise, I'm getting life insurance for him, grow up dude its irresponsible and an I told you so is imminent, my anxiety and health isn't worth the worry, at 30 I'm getting too old for this shit.
However you get your bike, don't do what my husband did. I've been pinching and saving for the last three years to get our homes foundation fixed and replace our bathroom and plumbing. First he buys a scooter, within the first 6 months trades in for another scooter, then lies to me and tells me he's going to work and comes homes with an $8000 motorcycle and I still owe on the two scooters. There went the money I saved, too bad for me.
My husband horded money for a bike, we could not afford it and he has a bad back, had surgery. He should never ride, motocross of all things. In addition got a loan, putting us in more debt... Still he came home with a bike. Hurt me deeply!
I hear ya' sister.
mine issue is the other way around - my husband won't let me get a motorcycle. I went and took classes, got my license and then he told me if I bought a bike he would leave. I have money in the bank already for when I find the perfect bike. So no issues there.
Any ideas on how to convice him...obviously the suggestions on how to smooth over the girls won't work in my situation.
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Good advice, but if your wife, or husband won't let you get a bike, then you got problems much bigger than wanting a bike. My wife hates motorcycles, but she'll still ride with me because she likes me being happy.